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Community Care Hospice

1669 Rombach Ave.
Wilmington, OH 45177
Phone: 937.382.5400
Fax: 937.383.3898

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Hospice of Central Ohio

Newark

2269 Cherry Valley Rd.
Newark, OH 43055
740.788.1400

Inpatient Care Center

1320 West Main St.
Newark, OH 43055
740.344.0379

Hospice of Central Ohio at
The Ohio State University
Wexner Medical Center

410 W 10th Ave - 7th Floor
Columbus, OH 43210
614.685.0001

Ohio's Community Mercy Hospice

Mitchell-Thomas Center
100 W. McCreight Ave., Ste. 400
Springfield, OH 45504
Phone: 937.390.9665

Ohio's Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

5940 Long Meadow Dr.,
Middletown, OH 45005
513.422.0300

Ohio's Hospice of Dayton

324 Wilmington Ave.
Dayton, Ohio 45420
937.256.4490
1.800.653.4490

Ohio's Hospice of Fayette County

222 N. Oakland Ave.,
Washington Court House, OH 43160
740.335.0149

Ohio's Hospice Loving Care

Ohio's Hospice Loving Care

56 South Oak Street
P.O. Box 445
London, Ohio, 43140

Ohio's Hospice LifeCare

1900 Akron Rd.,
Wooster, OH 44691
330.264.4899

Ohio's Hospice of Miami County

550 Summit Ave., Ste. 101,
Troy, OH 45373
937.335.5191

Coping With Grief During The Holidays

Coping with Grief During the Holidays

Birthdays, anniversaries and holidays tend to be particularly challenging for the bereaved, painfully triggering memories and longings for times past.

Even in the best of times, the holiday season can tax physical, emotional and financial resources. It should come as no surprise when grieving people start to feel a sense of dread as they contemplate the first holidays after loss. Unfortunately, withdrawing into a cave and hibernating with the bears until next spring is not a practical option. The best strategy is to prepare and plan for the challenges that the holiday season may bring.

Here are a few tips to cope with grief during the holidays.

  • Recognize your human tendency to expect and predict the worst. In fact, most bereaved veterans of “first holidays” will tell you that, although the holiday itself presented them with some painful memories, their anticipation was much worse than the experience.
  • Seek out structured opportunities to acknowledge your loss and honor the memory of your loved one. Participation in remembrance events, such as Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton’s Remembrance Walk and the Hope for the Holiday’s program, or one of the many advocacy group-sponsored events, such as Walk for the Cure or Walk to Defeat ALS, can serve as meaningful opportunities for healing.
  • Involve other family members in planning for the holidays. A family conference can be an effective forum that encourages the renegotiation of holiday plans and individual responsibilities based on input from everyone.
  • Scale back or eliminate decorating, shopping, baking, sending cards and making social obligations. Even in the best of years, we often find ourselves exhausted by trying to do it all. When grief is part of the mix, it becomes clear that “doing it all” is more than impossible.
  • Consider altering, rather than discarding, important family traditions. While it might be too painful this year to gather around the dining room table for the traditional home-cooked dinner, a buffet meal that everyone contributes to or dinner out at a restaurant may be preferable alternatives.
  • Create new rituals that incorporate your loved one’s memory into the holiday. Placing flameless candles that glow throughout the season, lighting a memorial candle at mealtime, and decorating the gravesite with seasonal flowers or other items are all examples of small, meaningful rituals that acknowledge our continuing bonds.
  • The custom of holiday gift giving is often a painful reminder of the gifts and people we are no longer shopping for. Many find that intentional gifts to lonely shut-ins, residents in nursing homes, or individuals/families with material needs can be a meaningful way of honoring deceased loved ones.
  • Intentional “random acts of kindness” during the holiday season can be highly therapeutic. Leaving a larger tip for a waiter or waitress, paying the bill for an unsuspecting diner, leaving change in a vending machine, leaving a book in a waiting room or bus station with a note to enjoy, sending an anonymous gift to someone you know, or offering a kind word to a frazzled mother. The opportunities to look outside ourselves are limitless.
  • Nurture yourself. Take a nap. Sleep in, soak in the tub or get 
    a massage.
  • Ask yourself this question: “If I knew this holiday season were to be the last one that I would have with my remaining loved ones, how would I spend it?” Loss teaches us that the moments we are granted in life are incredibly fleeting and valuable.
  • Seek out additional support. Attending a grief support group or talking to a grief counselor can be of immeasurable help inmeeting the challenges of navigating the holiday season.

For more information about grief support, please contact Pathways of Hope at 937.258.4991.

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