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Community Care Hospice

1669 Rombach Ave.
Wilmington, OH 45177
Phone: 937.382.5400
Fax: 937.383.3898

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Ohio's Community Mercy Hospice

1830 N. Limestone St.
Springfield, OH 45503

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Ohio's Hospice at United Church Homes

Chapel Hill
12200 Strausser St. NW
Canal Fulton, OH 44614

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Ohio's Hospice at United Church Homes

200 Timberline Dr. #1212
Marietta, OH 45750

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Ohio's Hospice LifeCare

1900 Akron Rd.
Wooster, OH 44691

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Ohio's Hospice Loving Care

779 London Ave.
Marysville, OH 43040

Ohio's Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

Ohio's Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

5940 Long Meadow Dr.
Middletown, OH 45005

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Ohio's Hospice of Dayton

324 Wilmington Ave.
Dayton, OH 45420

Ohio's Hospice of Central Ohio


2269 Cherry Valley Rd.
Newark, OH 43055

Inpatient Care Center

1320 West Main St.
Newark, OH 43055

Ohio's Hospice of Central Ohio at
The Ohio State University
Wexner Medical Center

410 W 10th Ave - 7th Floor
Columbus, OH 43210

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Ohio's Hospice of Fayette County

222 N. Oakland Ave.
Washington Court House, OH 43160

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Ohio's Hospice of Miami County

3230 N. Co. Rd. 25A
Troy, OH 45373

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Ohio's Hospice of Morrow County

228 South St.
Mount Gilead, OH 43338

Ohio's Hospice

Ohio's Hospice


7575 Paragon Rd.
Dayton, OH 45459


11013 Montgomery Rd.
Cincinnati, OH 45249

It’s Not Like the Movies

Death is a natural part of life. All of us are born; all of us will pass away.  But few of us know what death actually looks like. Many elderly people now live alone or in nursing homes, and death often occurs in institutions. Death has been hidden from us.


It’s not like in the movies

To compound this, when we do see death, it’s often in the movies. And what we see in the movies is dramatized for effect.

Imagine a movie unfolding. We see an actor awake, alert, eating a meal, and talking, in full possession of his faculties. Next thing we know, he’s in bed. He says goodbye, sighs … and it’s over.  We don’t see him in any pain or going through a slow decline.


The process of a natural death

I’ve been in medical practice for 20 years, and I’ve spent 8 years working in hospice and palliative medicine. In all my time, I have never seen a death like that.  Instead, what I see is usually a slow decline that happens over the course of one to two weeks. I see the patient sleeping more, up to a full 24 hours a day—until eventually, they are no longer responsive. Eating becomes minimal and then stops all together.

More often than not, the patient becomes congested and often experiences pain and shortness of breath.  Some patients become noticeably agitated and reluctant to calm down.  Others require medicine in order to remain calm, comfortable, and free of pain.


Digestion becomes a concern

Also, just as the body gets weaker, the swallowing muscles get weaker also, making it difficult for the patient to properly digest food.  Instead of food going into the stomach, it can end up in the lungs as the patient aspirates—that is, breathes it in. Once aspiration starts, it’s difficult if not impossible to stop, and it’s made worse if fluid or food is forced.

Forcing food and/or hydration can also cause nausea, abdominal pain, and shortness of breath. And IV feeding, tube feeding, and IV nutrition can also increase congestion.


What is the best option?

What happens when a person sleeps the entire day, is no longer responsive, and is no longer eating?  There are many options of treatment with aggressive medicine, but which course of recovery is the best if aggressive treatment doesn’t make your loved one better?

This decision depends on multiple factors.  Is there hope of a full recovery?  Are there any symptoms or side effects from the treatments?  What does the patient want to do?

Although it is often a difficult decision to cease treatment—to stop IV fluid, tube feeding, or TPN, for example—I have seen that patients are more comfortable when they pass away naturally. For thousands of years, the process of passing away would start when people could no longer swallow.  This natural death may  take days or may take weeks.

No, a natural death is not like what you see in the movies, but it can be comfortable. No matter what a person’s story is or why they end up at hospice, we can help keep them comfortable and we will care for their families with compassion. That’s our mission and that’s why we’re here.



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Wendy Schmitz
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