Caring for the Caregiver 

May is Mental Health Awareness Month, and for those who dedicate their lives to caring for others, this is an especially important time to reflect on your own emotional, psychological, and social wellbeing. As a caregiver, you’re often so focused on the needs of those in your care that your own mental health takes a backseat.

This year’s theme, “Turn Awareness into Action,” speaks directly to the caregiver experience—recognizing the unique mental health challenges you face and taking concrete steps to address them. 

The Hidden Mental Health Toll of Caregiving 

The statistics tell a powerful story about the mental health challenges caregivers face: 

• According to a 2023 AARP study “A Look at U.S. Caregivers’ Mental Health,” approximately 50% of caregivers report increased emotional stress due to caregiving responsibilities. 
• The same AARP study found nearly 40% of caregivers rarely or never feel relaxed. 
• The Family Caregiver Alliance reports that 40% to 70% of family caregivers show clinically significant symptoms of depression. 
• Female caregivers typically experience higher levels of stress and anxiety than male caregivers, according to the AARP research. 
• The Alzheimer’s Association’s 2024 report on Alzheimer’s Disease Facts and Figures found that for dementia caregivers, up to 70% report that coordinating care is a significant source of stress. 

Behind these numbers are real people—dedicated caregivers who often neglect their own wellbeing while attending to others. The mental health impact of caregiving isn’t just a personal concern; it directly affects your ability to provide quality care. 

Finding Balance: Life-Work Boundaries for Caregivers 

Establishing healthy life-work balance is particularly challenging when your “work” involves caring for a loved one. The boundaries between personal time and caregiving responsibilities can easily blur, leading to burnout and compassion fatigue. 

Five essential boundaries for caregiver wellbeing: 

1. Schedule non-negotiable personal time: Even if it’s just 30 minutes daily, protect this time for activities that restore your energy. 

2. Create a dedicated caregiving space: When possible, designate specific areas in your home for caregiving activities versus personal living. 

3. Take real breaks: Allow yourself to step away completely—physically and mentally—from caregiving responsibilities during breaks. 

4. Learn to ask for and accept help: Recognize when you’re approaching your limits and reach out to family members, friends, or respite services. 

5. Develop transition rituals: Create simple practices that help you mentally shift between caregiving and personal time. 

Embracing JOMO: Finding Joy in Moments Away from Caregiving 

For caregivers, social media can intensify feelings of isolation as you see others living seemingly carefree lives. FOMO—the “fear of missing out”—can add to your stress. Instead, consider embracing JOMO—the “joy of missing out”—finding satisfaction in quiet moments and small pleasures. 

When you feel FOMO creeping in, try these caregiver-specific approaches: 

• Recognize that social media shows highlight reels, not daily reality. 
• Identify simple pleasures that bring you joy during your caregiving day. 
• Celebrate small victories and moments of connection with your care recipient. 
• Create “mini-retreats” in your day—even a 5-minute break with a cup of tea can refresh your spirit. 

Caregivers: Your Mental Health Matters Too 

Remember that taking care of yourself isn’t selfish—it’s necessary for providing quality care to those who depend on you. When you neglect your own wellbeing, both you and those you care for ultimately suffer. 

Your mental health directly impacts your ability to provide care. 

Prioritize these essential self-care practices: 

• Set and enforce boundaries: Schedule dedicated time that’s just for you, and communicate these boundaries clearly to others. 
• Connect with support systems: Join caregiver support groups where you can share experiences with others who understand your challenges. 
• Use respite care: Accept help when offered and actively seek respite services to give yourself necessary breaks. 
• Practice daily micro self-care: Even 5-10 minute breaks for deep breathing, stretching, or enjoying a cup of tea can help restore mental balance. 
• Recognize warning signs: Be alert to symptoms of depression, anxiety, or burnout in yourself, and seek professional help early. 

Taking Action This May 

This Mental Health Awareness Month, we encourage caregivers everywhere to turn awareness into action. Acknowledge the mental health challenges inherent in your caregiving role and take meaningful steps to address them. 

Remember that caring for your mental health isn’t an indulgence—it’s a critical component of being an effective caregiver. When you prioritize your wellbeing, everyone benefits. You deserve care too.