Author Gary Roe’s expertise derives from his childhood experiences of sexual abuse and the loss of both of his parents, one from death and the other from mental illness and abandonment. The author has seven adopted children who have all faced issues of grief. He is a chaplain, pastor, and grief counselor.

This book is intended for adult readers who are caring for grieving teens. It is focused on how best to support teens, taking into consideration their unique developmental tasks, including their search for identity, raging hormones, and confusion about their losses. The author uses character profiles to illustrate teens’ perspectives and stories; then guides the reader on how to perceive their behavior; and offers clear and concise guidance on how best to support them, emphasizing that caring adults play a key role.

How does one support teens in shock? Gary suggests the following:

• “Make your primary goal to enter the teen’s world and love them there.”
• “Be aware that their world has changed forever.”
• “Prepare yourself to be patient—with the teen and yourself.”
• “Know that your presence is the most powerful gift you can give.”

Gary devotes a chapter to each feeling or stage a grieving teen is likely to confront: shock, denial, fear, sadness, loneliness, confusion, anger, feeling crazy, guilt, depression, wondering what is next, and hope.

His words have a calming effect as he normalizes the depths of teen grief and reassures us that we have the resources to help our teens heal. The third part of his insightful book offers practical suggestions for parents, teachers, social workers, clergy, school counselors, and youth advocates. This book is recommended for any adult in a caregiving role for teens.