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Community Care Hospice

1669 Rombach Ave.
Wilmington, OH 45177
Phone: 937.382.5400
Fax: 937.383.3898

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Ohio's Community Mercy Hospice

1830 N. Limestone St.
Springfield, OH 45503
937.390.9665

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Ohio's Hospice at United Church Homes

Chapel Hill
12200 Strausser St. NW
Canal Fulton, OH 44614
330.264.4899

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Ohio's Hospice at United Church Homes

200 Timberline Dr. #1212
Marietta, OH 45750
740.629.9990

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Ohio's Hospice LifeCare

1900 Akron Rd.
Wooster, OH 44691
330.264.4899

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Ohio's Hospice Loving Care

779 London Ave.
Marysville, OH 43040
937.644.1928

Ohio's Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

Ohio's Hospice of Butler & Warren Counties

5940 Long Meadow Dr.
Middletown, OH 45005
513.422.0300

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Ohio's Hospice of Dayton

324 Wilmington Ave.
Dayton, OH 45420
937.256.4490
1.800.653.4490

Ohio's Hospice of Central Ohio

Newark

2269 Cherry Valley Rd.
Newark, OH 43055
740.788.1400

Inpatient Care Center

1320 West Main St.
Newark, OH 43055
740.344.0379

Ohio's Hospice of Central Ohio at
The Ohio State University
Wexner Medical Center

410 W 10th Ave - 7th Floor
Columbus, OH 43210
614.685.0001

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Ohio's Hospice of Fayette County

222 N. Oakland Ave.
Washington Court House, OH 43160
740.335.0149

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Ohio's Hospice of Miami County

3230 N. Co. Rd. 25A
Troy, OH 45373
937.335.5191

Ohio's Hospice

Ohio's Hospice

7575 Paragon Rd.
Dayton, OH 45459
1.800.654.4490

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Ohio's Hospice - Cincinnati Office

11013 Montgomery Rd.
Cincinnati, OH 45249
1.800.654.4490

Volunteer Tear Cloth Program Helps Grieving Family Celebrate Wedding

Through the expertise of its nurses and the kindness of its volunteers, Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton had the privilege of providing compassionate care to one of its patients, Jerry Edward Kincer. 

When Kincer entered hospice care at Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton, nurses Brenna Ullery and Cynthia Bryant were able to monitor his care to ensure comfort and peace around the clock until his passing. In Kincer’s final hours, one of the nurses used a special cloth to wipe away his tears and placed them in a bag that was shared with his great-granddaughter, Haley DePoy. This cloth is called a tear cloth. 

A few days, up to minutes before death, a tear may form in the eyes of a person who is passing away. This tear is significant in that the patient may not be able to talk, and this final tear is a way of saying goodbye, not the emotional crying that comes from both eyes.  

The tear is gently collected onto the white cloth and kept by the family after the patient has died. The family has the tear cloth as a memorial. It can be used for special occasions, such as religious ceremonies, weddings or graduations.  

Upon receiving the tear cloth from Kincer’s nurse, DePoy decided her upcoming wedding would be the perfect moment to have her great-grandfather with her on her special day. She used the cloth to wrap around her bouquet. “I wrapped the cloth around the bouquet that I walked down the aisle with the next day,” DePoy said. “It’s now framed in my living room next to my favorite photo of my great-grandfather and me.” 

Kincer was a U.S. Army veteran, who had settled in Dayton after serving the nation. His great-granddaughter remembers him well. “Anyone who knew him knew how much he loved animals, and of course, his wife, Marlene Kincer,” DePoy said. “He was the biggest ball of sunshine and would have been the sweetest person you’d ever met if you’d had the chance.” 

DePoy’s experience with Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton did not just end with her great-grandfather’s care. In fact, it had just started. After seeing firsthand how the nurses treat each patient with superior care and superior services, she was inspired to join the mission and now is a part of the staff at Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton serving as a patient services coordinator.

“I started working for Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton in October of 2021, just a few months after my great-grandfather’s passing. Our experience with Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton is what led me here,” DePoy said. “My family and I were in absolute awe with how well we were treated alongside my great-grandfather. The passion that lives in those nurses’ hearts is unmatched.” 

The tear cloth program was started by volunteers at Ohio’s Hospice of Miami County in the early 1990s. Over time, the program has become a part of patient care at Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton. Last year, Ohio’s Hospice volunteers made more than 1,900 tear cloths. 

“The ability to have a moment in time of such significance through this tear cloth is something the families can cherish,” said Amy LeVan, director of volunteer services at Ohio’s Hospice. “This program is a testament to the fact that our organization goes above and beyond to make every moment — and tear — matter.” 

Ohio’s Hospice is thankful for both the nursing teams and volunteers that helped make this possible. To learn more about joining the mission of Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton, please visit www.OhiosHospice.org/Careers/ for more information. To learn more about volunteer opportunities, please visit www.HospiceofDayton.org/Volunteers/ for more information. 

Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton, an affiliate of Ohio’s Hospice, is a not-for-profit hospice provider. Since 1978, it has served patients and families in the Dayton region in their homes, extended care and assisted living facilities, and the Hospice House location in Dayton. Grief support services are available to the entire community through the Pathways of Hope Grief Counseling Center. Ohio’s Hospice of Dayton serves more than 1,000 patients and families daily, achieving national recognition for innovative services and outstanding care.

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